Today I am going to my second once in a life-time opportunity to work with Mary Jarvis of Bikram Yoga fame. Almost two years ago I attended a MJ (not the crooner whom we know I love) workshop in Annapolis, MD.
One of my favorite quotes from that day was:
"It smells like a cat box in here (the 107 degree room) because we expect you to leave your shit in it."
I can't wait for today's pearls of wisdom which I will surely share. Here's my new outfit for the occasion.:
Feeling pretty has evaded my 11-year-old daughter of late and it makes me sad. Here's Wednesday night:
Kathleen: Mom, why am I not pretty?
Me: (sympathetic and so sorry she knows not what I see in her) Honey, I can't talk you out of this feeling. It's normal at your age to have your groove on one day and then feel ugly the next. One day you'll feel more balanced but you always need to feel pretty inside and out.
Kathleen: But I'm not.
Me: (trying to convince her otherwise) Oh, honey. Yes you are. You have no idea. It's normal to feel awkward sometimes at your age but don't let this feeling get out of hand. Let's keep talking about it when it comes over you. Just have faith in all your gifts inside and out.
Kathleen: But I'm not pretty.
Me: (Getting impatient) Remember that time Bridget's Mom said you had this intense beauty that she couldn't describe? She's not even related and said that out of the blue.
Kathleen: Kinda. But why am I ugly?
Me: (Done.) FOR GOD'S SAKE CHILD... LOOK IN THE MIRROR, THERE ARE SOME DAMN UGLY PEOPLE IN THE WORLD AND YOU AREN'T ONE OF THEM.
Now that's a pearl of wisdom. What a good mother I am.
And now for 9. I don't feel pretty either because 9 is the number of pounds I have gained since my last Mary Jarvis workshop. Not a good thing for someone with a lifelong body image problem. No matter what people say I feel damn ugly lugging that 9 around. I know how my daughter feels...
My lesson: Find your own sweet spot of gratitude and confidence, be patient and only listen to other people with it uplifts you. Otherwise it belongs in the cat box located in the hot room where I am shortly headed.
Hey maybe I will leave my 9 in there. Look out 9! You. Are. Going. Down.
What's your pearl of wisom?